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Viva L’Amour

So many of us can remember the day when our eyes first made contact with our soul mates; our hearts skipped some beats, butterflies were birthed into our bellies and our breath became shallow. Our powerful emotions of this one experience brought our surging hormones to the peak of no return. It did not take any planning nor feel like work to keep the passion burning, and our interest in one another thriving. Those were the days…

Unfortunately, everyday life is still happening, and we are in the midst of the routines that take over our attention. Romance gets diverted and thing go awry. We tend to pay too much attention to the needs of the outside world, and not enough energy is left over to feed the needs of our intimate relationship with our mates. We begin to feel starved and distant. Before we know it, we may feel miles apart emotionally from one another. Ahhhh…but wait! Dr. Passionate is in the house to turn your love life around. (that would be me!)

This is a simple truth: a relationship is like an account at the bank. You must make deposits into this account to keep it in good standing. If you take and do not replenish the account things will begin to bounce, and your account will no longer be in good standing. You end up paying fees that could have been averted by a little balancing of the books, a little investment and a little effort of making a deposit.

How Do I Love Thee…
It is the little things that we do or say that mean a lot. Let’s face it, everybody wants to hear and know that he or she is loved. It is important to regularly tell your partner that you love him or her through your actions and your words. Here are a few ideas:

~A love note left on your partner’s pillow, or stuck in his/her purse, briefcase or in the book they are reading.
~A card sent for no reason at all.
~Bring home a special treat that you know they love.
~A call during the day, or a message left on the voice mail, just to say, “I’m thinking about you.”
~A secret signal that says, “I love you!,” only the two of you know.
~Always kiss one other hello and goodbye.

~A secret flash of the unexpected body part can make a sizzling sound to your lovers ears only he or she can hear

Be Generous With Praise
Whatever you focus your attention on grows. Praising the positive and acknowledging what is good in each other and in your relationship, has positive effects on both of you and on your relationship. When you respond to the efforts that your lover is making, and you recognize that they are wooing you, say thank you and express your gratitude. What this does is help you help your partner feel recognized and appreciated. In turn, this will let you receive what is being given to you on a deeper level.

~Smile or wink at your lover from across the room.
~Script a “Why I love you page,” tie it with a ribbon and give it to your partner, or better yet frame it.
~Talk together for ten minutes every morning before getting out of bed or every evening before going to sleep. Spend that time telling one another what you appreciate about each other.
~Thank your partner for something everyday.
~Tell them how sexy they are.

Communicate and Connect
Communicating with one other is one of the main tools to keep the foundation of your relationship strong. It is how we extend ourselves and let our partner know who we are, what we need and how we feel. It is so important for your relationship to have an open line of communication where each person can safely express himself or herself without fear of rejection or judgments. Mutual respect, trust and understanding come from our willingness to tell the truth and allow our partner to do the same. It is one thing to attack with truth, but it is another to lovingly express your hurts and needs with out belittling your lover.

One thing that I have found that works for my lover and I is we have a place in our master bathroom with a journal-type notebook and a pen. Sometimes we leave love notes, sometimes we discuss things that are worrying us, and sometimes we work out our differences on paper and respond to one another that way. This tends to allow more communication to come forth without having to be face-to-face as there are times it is best to not have to do that, or sometimes there just is not enough time in the day to “talk” it out. Whatever you choose, remember do unto others as you would want back in return.

I’m in the Mood for Love…
Hugging: I have found that hugging is good for your health and well-being. Hugging can lift depression and breathe life into a tired spirit and body. Touching and being touched helps us to thrive. It takes little time to open our arms to one another with huge benefits. What a great way to strengthen your ability to give and receive affection.

Seal it With A Kiss: Kisses are a delightful loving embrace of the lips. Powerful, but yet wordlessly they say many things: “Welcome home,” “I cherish you,” “I’m yours,” “I’m sorry,” ” I’m here for you,” “I want you,” “ I need you,” “Make love to me.” A kiss can lift the level of the moment from barren and ordinary to extraordinary. So kiss and be kissed regularly, you will love what it may lead to.

Create Intimate Time: Before rushing out the door in a frenzy, get up earlier than needed with your partner and have breakfast in bed, read an inspirational passage aloud, hold each other and whisper sweet nothings into each others ears, go for an early walk, give each other a massage, make love or take a shower together. Make a new rule that when your lover walks in the door you both walk to each other and embrace and kiss for at least 30 seconds. Watch how this affects the atmosphere of your home.

Fun, Hot & Sexy – Doing the Unexpected: Learn something new together. Once a month try a new and different activity–something you normally would not do. Go ice-skating, take a salsa lesson, rent roller blades, go for a full-moon hike, or stay in a hotel in your city and be a tourist. It’s amazing what getting out of the routine will do. Here are some additional thoughts and suggestions….

~Flash him!~ When no one’s looking, give your man a sneak peak in public. This will send his heart rate up quite a bit.
~Write him a sexy check.~ While you’re taking care of the bills, take care of your guy with a personal payment for a hot time in the bedroom, or you can specifically state what it is for. Tell him he can deposit that check and the bank will make good of it.
~Pick a hot spot.~ Make out every time you’re alone in an elevator.
~Artistic expressions~ Paint each other’s bodies with edible paints. (Oh yeah!) Or improvise with something from the refrigerator like chocolate syrup or whipped cream. Melt some butter and use some sugar and cinnamon for a tasty treat. You ever wonder what you could do with the leftover Sour Patch sugar? How about those gummy bears…if you lick they stick…
~Teasingly explore~ Blindfold your partner and focus on different sensations (feathers, ice, oils, etc.).
~Mood enhancers~ Set the mood with candles, music, dim lights, perhaps some wine. Take some time to cherish what you have.
~Creative fun~ Plan a sexual adventure, a surprise night where each must come prepared with a sexual adventure for the other. (Be sure to bring all the necessary props and tools). Go crazy, be creative, have a little fun.
~Sneak peek~ Wear sexy lingerie under your clothes, then, go out to dinner and flash your partner with teasing little peeks of what awaits him for “dessert.”
~Straight forward~ Leave a naked picture of yourself in your partner’s briefcase or wallet to ensure that at some point in the day they’ll get a hot little surprise.
~Intensity~ Maintain eye contact while making love and especially during orgasm. This enhances both intimacy and intensity.
~Get daring~ Pick a new spot to make love in – be adventurous! Look around the house, garage and home gym.
~Cook together~ Watch a gourmet cooking show, and then cook the meal together. If the house is empty, cook naked.
~Picnic~ Go on a picnic and watch the sunset, if secluded, make love. If not, make love anyway.
~Memories~ Celebrate your anniversary more than once a year. For example, celebrate your 1000th day together, or any of your firsts, such as the first day you made love, or the day you started living together, or the day you first said, “I love you.”

What ever you do always remember the key to making a relationship work is communication with dedication. Decide right here, right now, that from this day forward you will do what it takes to make your relationship turn from a small spark to a roaring bonfire. Passion is only an action away.

~I am the passionate owner of Womens-Place. I believes in molten hot, love and keeps that fire roaring daily with the love of my life, Tim. I hope you all have a romance filled day and keep the romance alive everyday for the rest of your life.