Womens-Place

So many of us can remember the day when our eyes first made contact with our soul mates; our hearts skipped some beats, butterflies were birthed into our bellies and our breath became shallow. Our powerful emotions of this one experience brought our surging hormones to the peak of no return. It did not take any planning nor feel like work to keep the passion burning, and our interest in one another thriving. Those were the days…

Unfortunately, everyday life is still happening, and we are in the midst of the routines that take over our attention. Romance gets diverted and thing go awry. We tend to pay too much attention to the needs of the outside world, and not enough energy is left over to feed the needs of our intimate relationship with our mates. We begin to feel starved and distant. Before we know it, we may feel miles apart emotionally from one another. Ahhhh…but wait! Dr. Passionate is in the house to turn your love life around. (that would be me!)

This is a simple truth: a relationship is like an account at the bank. You must make deposits into this account to keep it in good standing. If you take and do not replenish the account things will begin to bounce, and your account will no longer be in good standing. You end up paying fees that could have been averted by a little balancing of the books, a little investment and a little effort of making a deposit.

How Do I Love Thee…
It is the little things that we do or say that mean a lot. Let’s face it, everybody wants to hear and know that he or she is loved. It is important to regularly tell your partner that you love him or her through your actions and your words. Here are a few ideas:

~A love note left on your partner’s pillow, or stuck in his/her purse, briefcase or in the book they are reading.
~A card sent for no reason at all.
~Bring home a special treat that you know they love.
~A call during the day, or a message left on the voice mail, just to say, “I’m thinking about you.”
~A secret signal that says, “I love you!,” only the two of you know.
~Always kiss one other hello and goodbye.

~A secret flash of the unexpected body part can make a sizzling sound to your lovers ears only he or she can hear

Be Generous With Praise
Whatever you focus your attention on grows. Praising the positive and acknowledging what is good in each other and in your relationship, has positive effects on both of you and on your relationship. When you respond to the efforts that your lover is making, and you recognize that they are wooing you, say thank you and express your gratitude. What this does is help you help your partner feel recognized and appreciated. In turn, this will let you receive what is being given to you on a deeper level.

~Smile or wink at your lover from across the room.
~Script a “Why I love you page,” tie it with a ribbon and give it to your partner, or better yet frame it.
~Talk together for ten minutes every morning before getting out of bed or every evening before going to sleep. Spend that time telling one another what you appreciate about each other.
~Thank your partner for something everyday.
~Tell them how sexy they are.

Communicate and Connect
Communicating with one other is one of the main tools to keep the foundation of your relationship strong. It is how we extend ourselves and let our partner know who we are, what we need and how we feel. It is so important for your relationship to have an open line of communication where each person can safely express himself or herself without fear of rejection or judgments. Mutual respect, trust and understanding come from our willingness to tell the truth and allow our partner to do the same. It is one thing to attack with truth, but it is another to lovingly express your hurts and needs with out belittling your lover.

One thing that I have found that works for my lover and I is we have a place in our master bathroom with a journal-type notebook and a pen. Sometimes we leave love notes, sometimes we discuss things that are worrying us, and sometimes we work out our differences on paper and respond to one another that way. This tends to allow more communication to come forth without having to be face-to-face as there are times it is best to not have to do that, or sometimes there just is not enough time in the day to “talk” it out. Whatever you choose, remember do unto others as you would want back in return.

I’m in the Mood for Love…
Hugging: I have found that hugging is good for your health and well-being. Hugging can lift depression and breathe life into a tired spirit and body. Touching and being touched helps us to thrive. It takes little time to open our arms to one another with huge benefits. What a great way to strengthen your ability to give and receive affection.

Seal it With A Kiss: Kisses are a delightful loving embrace of the lips. Powerful, but yet wordlessly they say many things: “Welcome home,” “I cherish you,” “I’m yours,” “I’m sorry,” ” I’m here for you,” “I want you,” “ I need you,” “Make love to me.” A kiss can lift the level of the moment from barren and ordinary to extraordinary. So kiss and be kissed regularly, you will love what it may lead to.

Create Intimate Time: Before rushing out the door in a frenzy, get up earlier than needed with your partner and have breakfast in bed, read an inspirational passage aloud, hold each other and whisper sweet nothings into each others ears, go for an early walk, give each other a massage, make love or take a shower together. Make a new rule that when your lover walks in the door you both walk to each other and embrace and kiss for at least 30 seconds. Watch how this affects the atmosphere of your home.

Fun, Hot & Sexy – Doing the Unexpected: Learn something new together. Once a month try a new and different activity–something you normally would not do. Go ice-skating, take a salsa lesson, rent roller blades, go for a full-moon hike, or stay in a hotel in your city and be a tourist. It’s amazing what getting out of the routine will do. Here are some additional thoughts and suggestions….

~Flash him!~ When no one’s looking, give your man a sneak peak in public. This will send his heart rate up quite a bit.
~Write him a sexy check.~ While you’re taking care of the bills, take care of your guy with a personal payment for a hot time in the bedroom, or you can specifically state what it is for. Tell him he can deposit that check and the bank will make good of it.
~Pick a hot spot.~ Make out every time you’re alone in an elevator.
~Artistic expressions~ Paint each other’s bodies with edible paints. (Oh yeah!) Or improvise with something from the refrigerator like chocolate syrup or whipped cream. Melt some butter and use some sugar and cinnamon for a tasty treat. You ever wonder what you could do with the leftover Sour Patch sugar? How about those gummy bears…if you lick they stick…
~Teasingly explore~ Blindfold your partner and focus on different sensations (feathers, ice, oils, etc.).
~Mood enhancers~ Set the mood with candles, music, dim lights, perhaps some wine. Take some time to cherish what you have.
~Creative fun~ Plan a sexual adventure, a surprise night where each must come prepared with a sexual adventure for the other. (Be sure to bring all the necessary props and tools). Go crazy, be creative, have a little fun.
~Sneak peek~ Wear sexy lingerie under your clothes, then, go out to dinner and flash your partner with teasing little peeks of what awaits him for “dessert.”
~Straight forward~ Leave a naked picture of yourself in your partner’s briefcase or wallet to ensure that at some point in the day they’ll get a hot little surprise.
~Intensity~ Maintain eye contact while making love and especially during orgasm. This enhances both intimacy and intensity.
~Get daring~ Pick a new spot to make love in – be adventurous! Look around the house, garage and home gym.
~Cook together~ Watch a gourmet cooking show, and then cook the meal together. If the house is empty, cook naked.
~Picnic~ Go on a picnic and watch the sunset, if secluded, make love. If not, make love anyway.
~Memories~ Celebrate your anniversary more than once a year. For example, celebrate your 1000th day together, or any of your firsts, such as the first day you made love, or the day you started living together, or the day you first said, “I love you.”

What ever you do always remember the key to making a relationship work is communication with dedication. Decide right here, right now, that from this day forward you will do what it takes to make your relationship turn from a small spark to a roaring bonfire. Passion is only an action away.

~I am the passionate owner of Womens-Place. I believes in molten hot, love and keeps that fire roaring daily with the love of my life, Tim. I hope you all have a romance filled day and keep the romance alive everyday for the rest of your life.

As you saw yesterday no blog…we are on our second night of our anniversary get-away! So we had a very romantic day yesterday of the Finger Lakes up in Ithaca NY. We then went on two wine tasting tours. Wow, I drank a wine that had 18% alcohol in it and it so good we bought two bottles of that.  Any how, that point noted…wine, dinner, Bed and Breakfast, no kids…I will spare you the details.

Today it is a lazy day basking in being alone in a huge quiet home, having been served breakfast in bed as a great start.  Tim  and I meandered out and have just enjoyed our time alone.  Huge whirl pool bath tub, two person of course.  Sipping wine. snacking on cheese.

I am not going to lie, we have called home a few times and we miss our kids within hours of being gone.  I think that is just our nature.

Tomorrows  blog will be hilarious as I will let you in on one of my biggest phobias that came upon me today…you will laugh. I am not sure if they actually have a clinical term for it…but I will look.  Good night…wink.

When nature calls…one must stop time to go with timing!  Tim and I have adopted 8 children. We are trying to make a baby and our ovulation predictor test said it is time!  After thirteen miscarriages, we are ready and covet your prayers to see our dreams and prayers come to past.  11 years of marriage it is time! So, this blog entry must be short as I have some things to tend too! Wish us luck! We will keep you posted on the out come!

What do I love about my marriage?  Honestly?  EVERYTHING!  I know you must think I am crazy but it is true.  I love the good, the bad and the ugly…even though the ugly rarely exists.  I love the fact that the love Tim and I share has no strings attached. Nothing is expected in returned except what has been the key to our beautiful thriving relationship, Honesty, communication, passion and having God in our lives.   Today my husband took me to a store to spend a gift card I got from a friend for my birthday it was for $40. It was to a gorgeous shop in Owego, NY.  They sell Vera Bradley and other high end  items that normally I would shop clearance.  Well, I was looking through the purses and was picking through some to match what my gift card allowed and Tim picked one out that I adored…perfect in every way!  Then I saw the price!  $80! Then he insisted I get the matching wallet which was the amount of my gift card.!  In my mind I was no way, I can just get something cheaper. He saw the sparkle in my eye, one that I did not even know was there when looking around.  I said I can go pick the other one in the same pattern that was cheaper and just as nice. Tim looked at me and said no. He wanted to bless me. I told him I could use my money that is called my mad money stash. He said no hon, no, I do not  want you to use any of your “mad money” stash …he wanted to just bless me.  He wanted nothing more than to just  shower me with his love and bless me. He wanted nothing but to see my joy and excitement.  As I stood there and looked in his eyes…I saw beyond his big brown eyes. I saw his soul. I saw his passion. The depth of his love. I saw how he loves Christ…that is how he loves me. He is so full of Gods love it spills out in all this man does. He may not talk tons. But when Tim speaks tune your ears in…because ten to one, it will knock your socks off. He is a tender man but do not let that fool you he is a warrior.  I am blessed…nothing expected beyond what  we promised each other on the day we were married. Such a simple easy foundation to a great life of passion!  What you see with us is what you get…real people who love. Real people who care and give we want there to be a rule that there is no strings attached to our love individually, to each other and to all of you and our family. So never wonder, just receive and enjoy.

As March 27th approaches, I have been thinking so much about love, marriage and intimacy.  Tim and I will be married 11 years coming up and I think of the “wow” in our lives.  We have walked and endure many trials, losses, medical issues that I think could have caused us many times to just run in different directions. The glue to marriage for us is honesty, communication, our faith, not blaming one another and clinging to one another in the times of desperation and in times of joy.  Life is going to be radical and out of our control.  Standing arm in arm honoring your vows and remembering for better or worse that is a vital organ that needs your attention. When you take the time to really tell your significant other on a daily basis something simple as thank you, I love you, your beautiful, dinner was awesome…you plant a seed that will get nourish over the many years to come.